Saying it Out Loud

How many of us have had conversations with ourselves in our heads? I know I do it all the time. I reflect on things that I did, or didn’t do. And, I replay things I think I really messed up, like an annoying song that I don’t like but every time I turn the radio on, it’s there. I fixate on how I might have done things differently, but didn’t. Then I feel bad about myself. It can be exhausting. Yet, I do it anyway. Most of us do. We engage in too much negative self-talk and it’s not healthy.

And, then there are the things that we dream about but aren’t quite sure how to achieve. We roll these hopes and desires over and over in our imaginations. Frequently, they go nowhere—that is until we say them out loud and explore them with another person. That’s one of the gifts of coaching. The opportunity to speak what is in our hearts and heads. Exploring those things with a trusted confidant and sounding board can be a real gift. When we do this self-exploration, we find out that we aren’t as bad as we think we are and that our dreams are indeed possible. We just need to get them “out there” so we can begin to work on them.

The number one comment that my clients have reported is that coaching is an opportunity to say things, out loud, that they think about, but aren’t quite sure how to achieve. When they speak their inner most thoughts, they claim what is in their hearts and minds. It’s an acknowledgment that a certain goal is important to them. Once they say it, we can explore it together and develop a step-by-step plan to achieve it. They can also step away from the negativity that dwells within and discover their personal gifts.

Clients have explored improving leadership or communication skills, developing financial plans for their lives, making changes in their vocational lives, getting a home or work project off the ground, and so much more. A coach can be a great resource for the changes you want to make in your life, too.

Let me know how I can walk with you as you seek to make improvements in your life. Let’s work on it together.